I’m not here to judge her at all. Really, I’m not. At least I don’t think so. But I can honestly say that I’ve been where she is. No, I didn’t take my child to see an R rated movie, but what I did do is almost lose my mind by not being able to get out and do what I wanted to do when I wanted to do it and where I wanted to do it.
Because I had little kids.
I recently heard about a mom who took her child to the movies with her and most likely a friend (dad, male, baby dady, girlfriend…idk) to see 50 Shades Darker. What the heezy, right? If you read the books, you know it was kinkier than the first. I didn’t see this mom with my own eyes, but I read it on one of the online mommy groups I’m in so it had to be true!
Hold your judgement. It’s not the time.
There was a time right after we moved to our new home in the ‘burbs where I knew very few people who were willing and available to baby sit for me. I’m pretty sure that at that time I had a 3 year old and a 6-7 month old. I was going nuts in the house all day err day.
I remember like it was yesterday.
Then, I was a full-time SAHM. That’s stay-at-home-mom for those new to the term. My husband was working at a law firm all the time and if you know anything about that law firm life, it’s brutal on families. Especial to families with little children, wives with no immediate family nearby to give her a break, and to families who just moved away from their comfort zone a.k.a. trusted sitters to get break on occasion.
I didn’t even have a regular sitter to call upon to give me a much needed mommy break.
I was invited to a sports party. I usually could care less about the game, but I needed a break from it all. I needed to be around grown folks who spoke complete and clear sentences and made sense without drooling or throwing their food on the floor if it was nasty. A night without tantrums.
So I went to the party hosted by someone I knew but barely knew. See, I made a somewhat poor judgement. My husband may have been out of town or at one of those no-wives-allowed Super Bowl parties. I believe my mother in law came from Jersey to watch the kids while I was gone. I think….I don’t even remember. All I know is that I needed O.U.T.
So I get it. I understand WHY this mom felt she had to do what she had to do. I’m assuming that she read the book and she wanted to see the words brought to life. Lawd, were they brought to life! She wasn’t able get out to see it on opening weekend, or the week after that or the week after that. She has a child. We can’t leave when we want to because when you have kids those little buggers run your life.
I just recently gave in to trying to have a booming social life while momming. I get it in when I can, but it’s hard. Even this weekend has become a challenge with celebrating my birthday when/how I want because the kids have hockey, scouts, soccer, and other activities.
But it doesn’t have to be.
I recently started an online business which helps SAHM’s or mothers in general the steps to take in how NOT to lose themselves while home with the kids. There are steps, processes, systems that I have learned/created so this doesn’t have to happen to you and I want to share them with you. No parent should ever feel like they have to make a bad or questionable decision just in order to get out of the house.
Whoops, was that a judgement? I just hope that child doesn’t mimic anything he/she saw.
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