Apparently the mother sisterhood isn’t as tight and supportive as it should be. Here’s why.
As a blogger for about 7 years, I give my opinion on many things. I give tips, suggestions and inform the public of various product, services, and programs I think their kids or families would like. What I’m pretty sure I have never done in all of my years as a digital influencer a.k.a. Blogger, was tell you how to raise your child.
In my private Facebook group for moms in my community, there are about 1,100 women who ask various questions on anything from schools, sports clubs, birthday party ideas, etc. We share resources and such like most mom groups. Due to the inauguration on Friday, the question was asked innocently, “Do we know if any of the schools are having the kids watch any of the inauguration? Middle or high school?”
Not paying attention to the middle or high school part of the questions, I responded, “Good question. Hope not.” And I went on about my day. One group member responded to my post and said paraphrasing, “Regardless of my political views, he will be our 45th president.” But…we weren’t talking about my political views. You asked a question and I responded without ranting and sharing my political views.
No one asked me why. It was immediately assumed that I did not want my kids to watch the inauguration because of my party affiliation. How wrong was she.
If people would stop to ask and stop assuming, we may be a little further in our communities and nation than where we are. No longer can we have friendly dialogue without wrong assumptions. Take the time to ask questions. Get to the heart of the reason why or why not. Stop assuming.
It didn’t stop there. Another mom called me as well as those who agreed with my “hope not” response, pathetic.
So, now I’m pathetic?
I wonder if these moms who deemed me pathetic without asking me “why” encouraged their children or family members old enough to watch the 2013 inauguration because “it’s history and it’s amazing for our kids to be able to watch it.” I don’t want to assume because I would be no better than them.
Again, no one asked me why I said “hope not.”
I later learned that my daughter’s 5th grade class in fact watched the inauguration of our 45th President of the United States. She nonchalantly told me at school pick up and I said, “Oh.” That was that. We haven’t discussed it since. But if she was actually listening, she’s thinking about it and will come to us with questions eventually.
While I’m unclear on whether or not the showing of the inauguration in school was planned or not, my hope was that the kids would have been asked to record it from beginning to end, take the weekend to jot down a few take away points from the ceremony/speech and then engage in a dialogue on the next school day. In addition, we as parents could have discussed it and answered any questions she may have had, researched the president’s campaign promises, etc. and returned to school fully prepared to discuss.
But this didn’t happen.
But to tell me that I’m pathetic because of how I wish to have my child educated on the political process and the pomp and circumstance around this day should have never been uttered from another mother. I don’t tell you how to raise your children so don’t tell me how to raise mine.
I will admit that I peeked in and out of the events leading up to the swearing in because I had to see President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama one last time.
But I did not watch the whole thing. Instead I drove out to have lunch with my husband at a very tasty, yet spicy, Mexican restaurant.
Instead, I chose to reminisce on the unity that was spoken throughout the inaugural speech of President Barack Obama in 2009 and 2013 that we attended that gave us all a true sense of hope and promise in the first moments after his swearing in. Instead, #45’s speech and campaign rhetoric birthed a women’s movement that will surely bare the fruit of change we all need right now. I have yet to hear any hope from anyone from that speech.
I won’t even discuss how divisive #45s speech was. This explains a lot about many of his supporters. There’s no role model behavior to be found in this man that I want my child to emulate.
But there is one thing that my FLOTUS Michelle Obama told us which I will always (try) to remember.
Boy, will I miss her.
Do I want my children listening to a world leader who will go off script or lacks the maturity to manage his Twitter account? No. I see no role model in this president.
So miss to the mom who called me pathetic because I think differently, I’ll let you off easy and won’t “pop off” or “drag” you as some have encouraged me to do. My parents raised me right and to be inclusive. I’ll just let you think about how you further divided your community with your words instead of taking steps to bridge it.