I heard it was coming a few weeks ago, but no matter how early I was warned, I’m still not ready for it. I know other moms are saying that it’s not really a big deal, and that it’s a part of life but it’s just another step that I’m not ready to handle. The 4th grade letter announcing the DVD on menstruation and puberty hit the kid’s folders this week and I’m not ready!
It’s not that I’m not ready to discuss puberty, it’s everything else associated with it like sex, sperm, babies. Won’t this unlock premature curiosity?
According to the Being a Girl website, some girls start their first period at 8 or 9 years old, while others don’t start it until they’re 15 or 16. The average age is 12 or 13. I remember when I first got mine. It was over Christmas break before I turned 12 years old. But….most 4th graders are 9 or 10 years old.
Why so early?
While I have several friends whose daughters have already begun their journey into womanhood (yes, I’m hyperventilating), it’s still something that makes me so nervous. I had the talk with my daughter last summer just in case. I even gave her a book to read. She and my son spend two weeks each year with my parents in Ohio and I wanted her to be somewhat prepared for it.
But back to the letter. I’m torn between allowing my daughter to watch a film “Just Around The Corner” which explains the menstruation process. I found it on YouTube and one thing jumps out at me. The girls in the video look to be middle school age.
Hold on…I think I’m breaking out in hives.
Ok, I’m back. That was close.
I think as parents, what makes us most nervous is that this is once step closer to adulthood and then absolute independence. Am I speaking for myself?
I also think that it opens up the door to even more questions. Questions that I am not ready to share. But I know, I know. Having children isn’t always about what we’re ready for. I was ready for most of motherhood and kind of muddled through it passing (sometimes failing) at the milestones that kept coming.
Whoa….I just got to the 6:30 minute mark in the video. They skipped over the actual “act”, but I know every girl will ask, “How does the sperm get into the vagina/uterus?” I. Ain’t. Ready.
When I said I wanted a daughter, I didn’t ask for a pubescent daughter. I asked for the kind that likes little tutus, patent leather shoes, and pony tails. I had that, but now I have a very active, involved, tall, opinionated, intelligent, stubborn daughter who I wouldn’t trade for anything.
What do you think? Are you going to allow the school to show your daughter this video? Or will you watch it at home with her?
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